Never let Disappointment Mature to Hate

 

It was Friday afternoon, our last period of class for the day. This was 6th grade junior high. Our teacher decided to give us a free day since it's the last day of the week so we had the opportunity to just talk to our friends and play games with each other. Our classroom had a set of dominoes lying around which I decided to play with. I attempted to lined up the dominoes to be toppled. I remember I had created such an intricate design on my desk. Then, as I was about to lay the last three dominoes a classmate of mine walked by and his sweater accidentally toppled one domino and because of it's nature it toppled all my work.

I got very upset. So much so that I had cursed on him three times earning me a detention for that day. Since that day I was never able to trust him. In fact, I'm ashame to admit I had hated him till the very end of junior high. There were many occasions when he tried to become friends with me but I responded with unfriendly replies. 

Now that I'm older, I realize how ridiculous I have behaved. I had let a mere circumstance torment me. What suffering that should have ended moments after my dominoes were toppled, I had allowed to last for years. And worst of all I had let my hate prevent me from making friend. 

Humans are meant to be disappointed sometimes, it's inevitable. But it's important to know that we choose to either keep being disappointed or to let go. Most people opt for keeping the pain, thinking they deserve justice for it. And they will hold onto it until they feel justice has been served to their perpetrator. The problem is when people hold on to their disappointment they are giving it resources to grow into hatred. And hatred is very hard to erase. 

So here are a few tips on how not to let disappointment grow into hate:

• Resolve it as soon as possible: Disappointment is like a seed. If you wait long enough it will grow into a tree. Resolving it right away is equivalent to removing the seed therefore it will never have a chance to develop
• Past it is past: Remember that what happened already happened, there is nothing to be done about it. Don't let it affect how you are living now.
• Move forward: Don't let your own personal growth get stunned because of what had happened. Instead use the wisdom you gain from them to move forward consistently.

Many of us burden ourselves with the poison of hatred from time to time, not realizing that it does nothing but harm us. It's important to know that we experience what we choose to let into our lives. We can choose to fill it with happiness or we can choose to fill it with hatred.