Turn Rejections into Strength

I remember the very first time I felt the pain of rejection. It was in 7th grade, I had a major crush on a girl in my class. I was what they termed at the time "sprung". I added her on myspace, sent her a hello message every single day hoping to start a conversation with her. She replied once out of the 15 messages I sent her just to be nice. I also tried to talk to her in class but I guess that creep her out even more, which I admit, come to think about it, my attempts were very creepy. Eventually I realized the truth, she just wasn't interested. 

There are many things you can learn from others, many things you can ask and have answers for, but rejection is just one of those you just have to figure out for yourself. What I found out later in my life is that rejection doesn't just happen once, it happens over and over again. We all don't like the feeling of it.

What often happens is that because we are so distraught by these rejections that we loose confidence in ourselves. We start thinking in limited ways because we think they won't work but really we are just afraid of not knowing the consequences. Our enthusiasm and energy gets replaced by self-doubt and fear. This is a problem.

Instead of letting our rejections control our emotions, the most logical step is to control rejection to turn into a strength rather than a handicap.

Turn Rejection into Strength:
1) Know what you can control: Know that outside yourself there is very little you can control. What you can control however, is your emotions towards what happens. It will take practice but its an important skill to master.
2) Don't attach emotions to the past: The past already happened, try your best to keep the past as a record of what not to do and ignore the urge to analyze what you should have done.
3) Keep at it: Like most things, if you get exposed to it over and over again it becomes less and less unfamiliar. The more familiar a rejection feels the shorter its effect.